Look to Love – The Art of Eye Gazing

A new monthly offering has arrived in Melbourne! One that brings people together to connect more deeply via the simple act of eye gazing with curious, grounded and loving presence.

This is for people who realise the value of and are already exploring their own ‘path with heart’. Humans who yearn to show up as we truly are, and be seen, held, and celebrated, in all of our magnificence and complexity.

This is an opportunity to put words aside, leave the mask at the door, and let go of the need to impress others. It is for those who sense that they are intrinsically connected with all beings, and choose to move beyond their fears, to trust that there is gold to be found in the hearts and perspectives of others.

It is not a place for judgment, obsessing over the pursuit of grand answers, or looking for your next saviour-on-a-pedestal or lover (although who knows? That could still happen!). It is a space to practice being soft, open and present with what is alive between you and another. To build deeper connections with the wonderful people we share this community (and the planet) with. And it sure beats sitting around waiting and wishing for some quality lovin' to come our way!

Why Eye Gazing?

Group eye gazing meditations and practices are simple, yet a potent way to invite deeper connection, insight and acceptance into our lives.

It can stir up feelings of intimacy, tenderness, sacred union and a very deep sense of belonging. It can also bring feelings of sadness, grief, frustration and (perhaps the root of all of them) fear.

Our unique and sparkling ‘windows to the soul’ have a strong correlation with our hearts, and, as we can easily observe in the eyes of others, reflect through them a huge range of inner emotional states and feelings.

Self-love and acceptance, a lifelong journey for all of us, teaches us to accept, welcome and ultimately, to love these feelings, in whatever ‘form’ they appear. As we gain more and more mastery in acknowledging them as necessary messengers, natural waves, or the passing clouds in an otherwise clear blue sky, we become more able to accept and love all things, and others.

Brene Brown says “A deep sense of love and belonging is an irreducible need of all people. We are biological, cognitively, physically, and spiritually wired to love, to be loved, and to belong. When those needs are not met, we don't function as we were meant to. We break. We fall apart. We numb. We ache. We hurt others. We get sick.”

Our communities contain many people who suffer from feeling lonely, disconnected and isolated. We are conditioned to avoid vulnerability, and to minimise our exposure to situations that could make us feel uncomfortable, or at risk of social rejection.

The eyes, being such powerful carriers of feeling, are often regarded as uncomfortable for people to look into, especially with strangers. Many of us, despite our many efforts to transcend this, still hold deeply rooted fears around belonging, worthiness and acceptance.

It takes great courage to allow ourselves to be truly seen and to truly see others, without judgment or projection. Yet, as Rumi wrote, “the wound is the place where the light enters you.”

This practice has unique gifts for all willing to dive in and open themselves to it, and is a wonderful way to discover what areas are ready to shift, heal, blossom and deepen within you.

Event Structure

The event will be split into 3 main parts:

- An intro to eye gazing, and ‘etiquette’ for safe, stable and meaningful gazing
- Warm up and embodiment practices to get grounded, comfortable and ready for connecting, and
- The gazing circle itself

Participants will gaze with people from all genders. You do not need a partner to attend this event, although you are very welcome to begin and complete your circle journey with one.